Here’s the thing. Most would perceive this as jealousy, but it isn’t. In all honesty, I am not jealous. It’s frustration and simply plain boredom. Men are excruciatingly boring. It’s so boring, that I’m frustrated. Get it?
Well, here it goes. It is said that Hijab for ladies it is to cover their head & bosom, allowing only the face and hands(palms) to be seen. Yes,yes.. there are also the other aspects like loose fitting clothes, etiquettes and speech.
And Hijab for men is the lowering of the gaze, and of course clothing, etiquettes and speech are included as well.
Now here is the thing. I am struggling and doing my part in following the commandments of Allah(SWT). It has come to a point whereby I am annoyed and irritated that men in my life are not putting in much effort in lowering their gaze, giving excuses like “But men are men!” or “But I’m single so I can look and flirt!”.
Believe me when I say that I’ve come across men who are not like that at all. One of them was an Arabic lecturer. A young man who did his studies in Cairo. When one of his female student was innocently trying to open a conversation about how beautiful middle eastern girls are, he froze, blushed and replied, “We don’t talk about that.” Another was a young student. He would start breaking out in sweats and would walk away when he is surrounded by girls he do not know, or if they are staring at him.
Men who are equipped with such level of eeman are beautiful. And rare.
So don’t tell me “Men will always be Men.” Of course men are weak at the sight of beautiful girls. But you are missing the point! Your Hijab is to lower your gaze and control your nafs!
To be honest, I feel sorry for sisters who are paired up with men of such characteristics and especially those who keep themselves covered. Because here you are struggling and doing your part, but the other party completely does not even try.
I think I would feel like an idiot if my husband or husband-to-be still let their eyes roam and jumps at any opportunity to chat up with some girl, and here I am in Hijab.
And if you’re thinking “I’ll change when I’m married”, guess what? You won’t. You can’t get the 1st place trophy without running the race first, can you? No girl wants to gamble with that. Face it. Men strays. Especially when they hit 30, when in their head they’re saying “Omg, I’m married?”.
So change NOW. Stop with the liking of naked/semi-nude girls on Instagram. I don’t know why but somehow people are not aware that friends can see those naked pictures you like and the Instagram porn account that you follow. Stop these things from consuming you!
And oh, if you think checking out Hijabi girls are okay, then I’m gonna tell you that it is not. We don’t need you to tell us we look sweet and beautiful either. Because that is not the point of us wearing the hijab.
Why don’t you just shut up and take care of your own Hijab, which is the lowering of gaze, and we’ll take care of our Hijab yeah?